Unlock the Deep Connection and Intimacy You Desire

Are you struggling with intimacy or navigating complex relationship dynamics like ethical non-monogamy or polyamory?

Whether you're exploring opening up your relationship, have lost the spark in your sex life or are struggling with communication breakdowns, you deserve a relationship where you both feel seen, understood, and fully supported.

My name is Usha Rose, a VITA™ certified Sex and Relationship Coach, here to support you in making lasting improvements in your relationship.

Relationships are beautiful, but let’s be real—they can also be really hard.

Love alone isn’t always enough to navigate mismatched desires, communication struggles, or the growing pains that come with deepening intimacy.

Maybe you’re feeling disconnected, stuck in the same arguments, or unsure how to meet each other’s needs.

The good news? You don’t have to figure it all out alone.

With the right support, you can transform the way you connect, communicate, and cultivate intimacy—so your relationship not only lasts but thrives.

These are the primary themes I support you with so that your relationship can thrive:

Skillfully Navigate Open Relating & Ethical Non-Monogamy

Are you feeling the tension of mismatched desires in opening your relationship? Maybe one of you feels excited by the possibilities, while the other is overwhelmed by jealousy or fear.

Perhaps unclear boundaries or broken agreements in the past have led to feelings of betrayal or uncertainty, leaving you questioning whether this relating style can actually work for you both.

Navigating the complexities of Ethical Non-Monogamy requires trust, clear communication, and a deep understanding of each other’s needs and fears.

I help you create solid agreements that honor both partners, repair ruptures with compassion, and explore how to approach ENM in a way that fosters connection, trust, growth, and security.

Together, we’ll find your unique path forward, ensuring both of you feel supported and empowered in your relationship. It IS possible to enjoy freedom and new experiences alongside true security and continued deepening in love together.

Improve Communication & Conflict Resolution Skills

Does it feel like you're constantly fighting about the same thing, replaying the same old loop and unable to find your way through to connection and understanding?

You're trying to explain yourself but it feels like your partner isn’t truly hearing or understanding you? Do you find yourself hesitant to “bring things up” because you don’t want to spark another fight?

This kind of disconnection and challenge in communication is all too common, but when we learn new ways of doing it, it can improve!

I help you create a foundation of emotional safety so that you can communicate openly without fear of judgment, defensiveness or triggering each other into another escalating fight.

Through practices like active listening, validation, and understanding, I support you to truly hear each other and respond with love and care. Together, we’ll ensure that you both feel seen, valued, and deeply connected in your relationship, building the emotional intimacy you crave.

Reignite the Spark and Discover Sexual Satisfaction

Has your sex life become flat? Maybe one of you craves more intimacy while the other avoids it causing tension and resentment in the bedroom.

It's time to spice up your sex life, feel inspired to try new things and yes, even have mind-blowing, earth-shaking sex again!

Many couples have mismatched desires/libido and getting support can help you find authentic alignment and connection again.

Rediscovering the spark starts with understanding your unique desires, needs, and rhythms. I support you to understand your arousal and navigate ANY sexual challenges with curiosity and compassion.

Sometimes there are deeper wounds lying under the surface asking for attention, care and healing. I support you both to address these challenges and concerns with loving, trauma-informed sensitivity to grow, learn and heal together.

Incorporating elements of Tantra and sacred sexuality, we’ll explore ways to cultivate deeper intimacy, enhance arousal, increase pleasure and bring more joy, confidence and satisfaction into your erotic life.

Understand Attachment Styles for Stronger Connection

Do you find yourselves caught in a constant push pull dynamic with each other? Like you’re constantly chasing your partner for connection, only to be met with distance?

Or maybe you find yourself needing some space when things feel too intense and you're unsure or just not ready to face your partner on their timeline. This cycle of misunderstanding and differing needs can leave you both feeling frustrated and unclear how to re-establish a healthy connection.

Understanding your attachment styles—whether anxious, avoidant, disorganized or secure—can provide clarity and compassion for the patterns in your relationship.

I help you uncover the needs and fears driving your behaviors and how to shift them for your own personal growth and development.

Together, we’ll explore how to support each other authentically, move through conflict with greater compassion and build a foundation of trust, collaboration and security.

Gain Clarity on Relationship Values & Purpose

What do you truly want from your relationship? How is it serving you and supporting your growth? Does it have a purpose greater than your individual self or partnership?

If you feel like you’re drifting through your relationship without a clear direction, or like you’re struggling to align your goals or vision for the future, it's not uncommon for conflict and tension to arise.

Without a shared sense of purpose or clear values, it’s easy for misunderstandings, resentment, or stagnation to creep in.

I guide you in uncovering your individual and shared relationship values, creating a clear and inspiring vision for your partnership. Together, we’ll explore what you truly want from your relationship and how to align it with your personal growth and shared purpose.

By defining your relationship pillars, you’ll cultivate greater harmony, integrity, and trust, building a foundation that supports both of you in feeling seen, valued, and deeply connected.

Deepening Our Relationship with Greater Trust, Alignment, and Compassionate Understanding

Usha Rose Coaching

"We started working with Usha because we were seeking clarity on where our relationship was headed and how we could deepen our emotional and spiritual intimacy.

We were struggling with contrasting ways of being—one of us more dreamy and visionary, the other more practical and grounded, and desired to find more union and flow in our relationship.

With Usha’s support we were able to create a clear and inspiring vision for our future. She also helped us understand each other’s attachment styles, own our shadows, and navigate our differences more compassionately.

Usha offered helpful insight into parts we could not see and held the container of our sessions in such a powerful and beautiful way. She also provided notes from our sessions that deeply supported us in processing and integrating afterwards.

Our communication improved significantly, and we now feel more deeply understood and supported by each other. We feel safe to communicate with each other and confident to use the tools she offered us in sessions.

We also gained the clarity we needed in navigating our (sometimes) open relationship (ENM) and are able to maintain clear agreements that foster greater trust and security between us. "

-A and P

Through Love, Lust & Heartache — Finding the Path to Thriving Intimacy

I'm Usha Rose, a VITA™ certified Sex, Love and Relationship Coach.

I know what it’s like to lie awake at night, exhausted from the same painful fights with my partner, wondering if love is enough to bridge the growing divide.

Over the years, I have walked the path of tremendous love, heartache, and unbearable grief. I’ve experienced the pain of relationships unraveling, the frustration of feeling misunderstood, and the relief of getting to the other side of breakdown and reuniting in love.

Through my own journey of relationship healing, I’ve gained the tools, wisdom, and compassion to help you navigate your own relationships with confidence, clarity, and lasting intimacy.

How it started...

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been drawn to exploring love, sex, and relationships in a way that felt more expansive than what I saw around me growing up.

I’ve explored intimate love in its many forms—monogamy, polyamory, long-distance, platonic friendship, domestic partnership, and more. Each experience shaped me, revealing new truths about intimacy, freedom, and devotion.

I’ve been polyamorous all of my life, though I didn’t have a name for it until I moved to the West Coast over 15 years ago and found myself immersed in the sex-positive community. Suddenly, there was language for what I had always felt—ways of loving, relating, and expressing desire that honored truth, freedom, and deep connection.

And although I knew in my heart I was polyamorous, it was years before I fully understood what that actually meant and how to navigate it with skill and integrity. Learning to be honest with myself so that I could be honest with others, was a huge revelation that I often help my clients with.

The turning point...

If you've ever felt frustrated, sexually unsatisfied, or stuck in the same exhausting conflicts—where it feels like you're both just fighting to be right—you’re not alone.

I’ve been there too.

I’ve struggled with mismatched desire, often wanting more sex than my partner and feeling the sting of rejection, wondering if I was too much or not enough.

I’ve danced through the push-pull of anxious and avoidant attachment styles, sometimes feeling desperate for closeness, other times shutting down to protect myself.

And for years, I wasn’t fully honest with myself. I ignored my own needs, silenced my desires, and avoided difficult conversations because I (subconsciously) feared losing love. But avoidance only led to breakdowns and breakups.

The turning point came during my longest relationship—seven years together, wrestling with our differences around monogamy, sexuality, and intimacy. We were stuck and spiraling, so we sought support, diving into a three-year relationship mastery program and thousands of dollars in coaching and therapy.

Through that experience I learned so much about sexuality and polarity, attachment and communication styles, polyagony and conflict resolution in ways that transformed my entire approach to love and relating.

That journey revealed something in me.

I wanted to understand relationships deeply—not just from my lived experience but from the most powerful, research-backed, and embodied approaches available. So I spent years studying and training, eventually becoming a certified Sex and Relationship Coach.

My training includes:

✔️ Certification as a VITA™ Sex, Love, & Relationship Coach through the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality
✔️ Graduate of the Somatica Method™ Sex and Relationship Coaching program
✔️ Facilitator with ISTA (International School of Temple Arts)
✔️ Three years in the LoveWorks™ Relationship Mastery Program
✔️ A lifelong passion for sacred sexuality, tantra, and conscious relating

I live and relate with clarity, fulfillment, and integrity and teach my clients how they can, too.

I know what I want. I communicate my desires with confidence. I bring curiosity and play into my intimate life, depth and devotion into my relationships.

I am deeply honored to guide others on this path—helping you move beyond confusion and disconnection to build deeper intimacy, greater sexual fulfillment, and a relationship that truly thrives.

Ready to significantly improve your relationship?

Why Work With Me?

I bring a holistic, body-based, science-backed, and deeply personal approach to relationship and intimacy coaching.

In addition to my extensive training in Sex and Relationship Coaching, I bring nearly 20 years of experience in somatic healing arts, yoga, spirituality, and trauma-informed care, allowing me to gracefully integrate mind, body, and spirit into my work.

What truly sets me apart is that I don’t just teach this—I live it.

I know what it’s like to navigate the complexities of polyamory, work through sexual shame, repair trust after ruptures, and rediscover desire in long-term relationships. I’ve walked this path, and now I get to walk alongside you.

From Struggle to Synergy: Strengthening our Commitment, Intimacy, and Parenting

Usha Rose Coaching

"We started working with Usha because we were struggling with different ideas and desires about opening up our marriage. Not only that, but we were feeling challenged in our differing needs for intimacy. For one of us, sex was straightforward, and for the other, it felt much more nuanced and complicated.

Usha helped us find clarity on how to move forward in our relationship structure and to more graciously meet each other’s needs. We are now much better at supporting and understanding each other.

We’ve discovered new ways of meeting each other intimately and our somatic connection feels more easeful than ever.

We also made significant progress with our parenting dynamics. We feel more like a unified team, facing the challenges of parenthood together with optimism and clarity."

-H and L

Your relationship doesn’t have to feel like a struggle.

Whether you're here to deepen your intimacy, skillfully navigate non-monogamy, or find more freedom and pleasure, I’m here to help you create the love life you truly desire.

The benefits of relationship coaching with me include:

Deeper Connection & Intimacy

Transform the way you and your partner communicate—so you both feel deeply seen, heard, and understood. Strengthen emotional trust, dissolve resentment, and create a relationship where love, passion, and connection thrive.

Confidence & Security in Your Relationship

Feel deeply anchored in your relationship, knowing you and your partner are committed to growing together. Build unshakable trust, stop second-guessing where you stand, and create a shared vision for love that feels safe, expansive, and aligned.

More Pleasure & Fulfillment in Your Sex Life

Whether you’re reigniting passion, navigating mismatched desire, or exploring non-monogamy, you’ll unlock deeper confidence, ease, and play in your intimate connection—so sex becomes more satisfying and joyful.

Clarity & Lasting Transformation

Gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your relationship dynamics, so you can make empowered choices with confidence. Through embodied practices and integration, you’ll break free from old patterns and step into a love life that feels intentional, and deeply aligned with your values.

Feel United in Partnership

Shift from feeling like you’re working against each other to becoming a strong, supportive team. You’ll learn how to build emotional security, align your values, and approach challenges with mutual trust, respect, and collaboration.

Emotional Resilience & Mastery

Learn to use conflict as a pathway for deeper trust and intimacy rather than disconnection or resentment. You’ll develop the tools to navigate triggers mindfully, communicate with emotional maturity, and cultivate a love that grows stronger through life’s challenges.

Let's Create the Relationship you Desire

Whether you're exploring new relationship dynamics, reigniting intimacy, or strengthening communication, I’m here to guide you. Together, we can build a relationship that’s not only fulfilling but transformative.

Ready to take the next step?

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